The Mirror of Your Own Vitality
Let’s get one thing clear: Your sexual health is not measured by how well you perform a social script, how many partners you have or have had, or how many "peaks" you hit.
When I first started seriously exploring my own sexuality, I had to confront over and over the awful feeling that I was still not enough, even in my own truth. That's because I was still operating under the illusion that my sexual self had to somehow fit a mold (even a pre-conceived Dominatrix mold!) or meet a standard or be performed for somebody else. Most of us are trained into thinking that way, and that is so way off from the truth.
Witch Wisdom: Your sexuality is like an energetic thumbprint. It is unique unto you and could never fit into a container neatly.
Eros is the mirror of your own vitality. If your self-pleasure looks like a "traditional" act, great. If it looks like stretching your limbs until you feel the fascia release, or breathing until your skin tingles, or dancing alone in the dark until you feel the fire in your belly then also GREAT. All of it can be considered erotic self-love.
The magic is in your intention to remain deeply connected and present while you pleasure yourself in whatever way you choose to in the moment.
It does not have to result in an orgasm!
I'm going to declare this for the people in the back of the room:
Your Erotic Power is not defined by how hard or how often or how "well" you COME/ORGASM/EJACULATE.
There is too much focus on orgasms in self-pleasure and wellness marketing. They're great if you have them and want to pursue having them. Excellent endeavor. But that is AN aspect of how one could choose to express their eroticism. To narrow the human Erotic experience to that detail alone gravely limits the potential use of one's Erotic Power.
I'm encouraging you to embrace the goal of Deep Embodiment. It’s the feeling of your own "sacred flame" warming you from the inside out. When you define your own erotic expression, you become sovereign.
The only validation that matters is Your Own.
Look yourself in the eyes today. Ask: "What makes me feel most alive right now?" Not what makes you "attractive" or "productive" or “sexy.” What makes you feel alive?
Do that.
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See you at my workshop, "Self-Seduction as a Tool of Transmutation." Because "faking it till you make it" is a valid somatic tool for when you aren't feeling "the fire."
Let's honor our precious being together.
Excitedly trembling till then,
Mel, The Body Witch
